Ladies- what’s a right time to get married!!
Well, the answer, to be politically (and a thousand other
lly) correct should be- whichever is the time you think you should!! But, but ,
but- That would mean- nothing!! So, there is a theory- rather a research from
understandings- from seeing & knowing!! So, believe it or not, there is (
or ‘are’) right times to get married!!
Of course, there are assumptions in the hypothesis, that
include your being an urban Indian, sufficiently empowered, straight, etc.
etc., but lets say we are talking about the majority of those who can read
this!! Yes, of course, there is a sample survey to back the theory ( and since
it consists of friends, please do not ask for details!!) !! & yes, there
are possibilities of error- given the complex nature of the research!!
Have it straight. The Magic no,s are- 21, 27, 31, 37, 47,
57!! Of course the no.s refer to age of the ladies (girls or women if you may
please!) . Now, for those who see a pattern in the no.s – well, its not
intended!! The no.s are chosen by research & understanding & any
mathematical pattern to them would be totally a time pass of those who do time
pass!! While a suitable variation to the
exactness of the no.s may be possible, we affirm by their general
representative correctness!!
So 21!! Wrong for all & right for none!! Unless, you
are part of those urban families who are here by accident of their works &
have not had the chance to develop their attitudes enough to believe in
educating the women in the family!! Or themselves- out of the traditions of the
yore!! But, well, what the heck- you are on the right side of the law & are
joining the same set of family ideas on your married side!! & yes, there
is value in the systems of the old- your
children would be married by the time you are in your youth- and then you d
have all the time in the world to have fun- away from your responsibilities!!
No kidding, there is logic in this!! & what the heck, this age type
certainly makes the marriage institution works on its foundations!!
Ah, 27!! You come from the Urban liberated mindset!! Your
patents mindset at least!! Those who have let you study- maybe even
professional studies & now that you have joined a path of career- you may
want to “ settle down”!! Well, its difficult to find flaws with theorem-
especially since all the “correct” boys ( defined by those who have taken their
career paths & are sizably the largest chunk of marriageable stock) are now
available!! Oh, heck, so what if you haven’t travelled enough and have just
begun to enjoy the benefits of your efforts at getting a carrear path etc!! The
“children in time” mega benefit still works & the biological twelve o clock
is still away!! Well, in my ratings its still B-, but lets have it, at least
you ve gone through a college life & have a profession to play with!! On a
flip side- most urban divorces happen in this direction!!
31 is my A+ !! Well, by the law of averages of many
benefits, that is!! I mean, you ve entered your place in the work life, been
there done that, have still time to reproduce ( thanks to medical science)
& yes, there are still some decent boys left at your work place, mothers
friends sons who went to the US & that lone guy who is the dude who may
decide you are the right one to get married to- even if he is still under
thirty five!! Ye!! & maybe you are the coupling type- who is now getting
sick of having a empty PG to come back too & are tired of answering the
relatives as to why not!! Apprehensions on your straightness don’t bother you,
but , lets have it, you don’t get as many social invites as you may get when
married!! What the heck, there are hardly any single friends left & the
parents have given up on you anyways!! Well, the good side is that you have a
bank balance & you know the path your career is taking!! & Frankly,
there are no good enough Indian men left to date!! & we know the problem of
sitting alone at a Bar!! The A+ works since you d escape the economic grind of
putting up a house (of course you have a balance & credit limit now!!) and
generally have lived enough to get through the emotional hang-up’s of marriage!!
The real star is 37!! So, all the wrong reasons for
marriage have been obliterated by now- the ones like marriage for social
conventions, having babies in time, juvenile crushes etc. etc. & Lets say
by now you are fast becoming the person you are meant to be- personally &
professionally!! Of course, there are Men around!! & luckily the boys have
been sieved out!! Ye!! & to join their ranks are the good ones who had
gotten in too soon & have found their way out!! Believe me, verily, this
will be a marriage of equals, choice & intention!! Both of you will get the
good baggage to the stables!! On any doubts that you may have about other
issues, you don’t know where medical science has reached!!
& if you miss the above!! Of course you have reasons
to!! Maybe you are just not the coupling kinds!! & then, there is suddenly
this lull in the market, as well as numbness in your self!! But, wait for 47!!
Ah, things will come back- including good new reasons to get married!! Like a
prudent understanding of the benefits of sharing a house, a male companions for
various reasons (including entering parties with!!), a staring situation of
being alone when ill, etc. etc. Of course, the choices are limited- but so are
the expectations!! Go on, there are some amongst the males who are like you
too!!
& then, what the heck!! Its been a good life &
there has to be more to it!! So, by you are 57, you do know marriage is more
than kids, economics, chores, society etc. It is about companionship!! Yes!!
Who wants to die a spinster!! I mean, in the status way!! You may move into
separate bedrooms, but isn’t that a wonderful way to sleep!! & By now, who
rally cares!! The study suggests that you have eclectic choices in the market
availability at this stage. Of real Men, or maybe unreal ones too!! Those who
have reached here for convictions at work or society!! Add to them the good
ones divorced, or widowed- & you d get enough to choose from!! & Since
the marriage is not going to make much difference to you anyways, there are
only good things that you can look unto!!
Now, the above is generic enough, but I hope it helps!!
There are reasons to believe that age in between these no.s have great
potential of confusion & choice!! So, go on- pick your time!!
